**Please be sure to read all around this passage so that you are getting it in context; and as always, ask the Holy Spirit to guide you to the understanding that He would have you see. Passage: Matthew 5:31-32
Being a divorced man myself I paid special attention to this passage. I know personally how devastating divorce can be. How damaging it can be to our children's lives, our personal lives, and even affecting our characters and how we interact with other people in the future.
Let's first take some time to get a sense of what Jesus may have been dealing with in His time...
Under Jewish law, “adultery” referred only to the wife’s misbehavior, not the husband’s. Matthew does not agree with this view (Mat_5:28); but because his readers must obey the law of their communities, he deals only with the issue of the wife.Some Pharisaic *rabbis allowed divorce for almost anything (just as Roman law did); others allowed it only if the wife were unfaithful. Yet the stricter rabbis did not view more lenient divorces as invalid. Jesus thus goes beyond the stricter position: not only does he allow divorce only if one’s wife is unfaithful, but he regards divorce for any other reason as invalid, thus making remarriage in those cases adulterous. This seems, however, to be *hyperbole (as in Mat_5:29-30), a graphic way of forbidding divorce except when the other partner has already irreparably broken the marriage covenant.If Jesus’ interpretation of the law was stricter than what the law said at face value, no one would have thought that he was therefore contradicting the law; “building a fence” around the law was a standard Jewish practice that involved making certain that the law’s intent was not broken. IVP Bible Background Commentary
People swore by all sorts of things other than God to testify that their word was true. They reasoned that if they broke their oath based on any of these lesser things, at least they were not bringing God’s name into disrepute. It eventually became necessary for *rabbis to decide which oaths were completely binding. Jesus says that everything by which one could swear is ultimately God’s, and demands that people simply be as good as their word. Jesus argues the point in part from Scripture; Isa_66:1 declared that heaven is God’s throne and earth is his footstool. IVP Bible Background Commentary
Traditional Wedding Vows 1:I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.Traditional Wedding Vows 2 (traditional civil ceremony vows):(Name), I take you to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife). Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you as long as we both shall live. I take you with all your faults and your strengths as I offer myself to you with my faults and strengths. I will help you when you need help, and I will turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.Traditional Wedding Vows 3:I, (name), take you, (name), to be my beloved (wife/husband), to have and to hold you, to honor you, to treasure you, to be at your side in sorrow and in joy, in the good times, and in the bad, and to love and cherish you always. I promise you this from my heart, for all the days of my life.
I, husband, take you, wife, to be my lawfully wedded wife. I vow to God, our family and friends, and to you to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to always put God first and by doing so be a good husband to you unconditionally. I will uphold this covenant with God by loving you unconditionally, by supporting you in your goals, by honoring you and respecting you, by laughing with you and crying with you, and by cherishing you for as long as we both shall live.